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There are two important and often overlooked keys to happiness. Tim McGraw highlights them during the chorus of his song, “Humble and Kind” when he sings, “hold the door, say please, say thank you.” “Please” and “thank you” work – they make you happier! You heard that right – those courtesy words intended for others actually make you happier.
Can you believe a friend told me I use “please” and “thank you” too much? I was shocked! I had just finished presiding over a meeting of an educational non-profit where people were engaged, volunteering to help, and in good spirits. I thought the meeting had gone well, but her feedback for me was that I should tell people what to do, not ask them. And that whole “thank you” business needed to go, in her opinion – compliance should be expected, not appreciated. Ouch – not my style at all, and I hope it never is.
“Please” and “thank you” are very powerful words, but here’s the secret – they actually gain power the more you use them!
When you’re polite to others, they (usually!) are polite in return. That generates good feelings on both sides – you’ve made others happy, and their happiness increases yours.
In the case of people who equate politeness with weakness, as my friend does, you probably won’t get any politeness back from them. That’s ok – as humans, we were born with a full set of emotions to play with and experience, and some people play more with the negative ones. Just as you’re free to feel the way you want to feel, so are they. But remember – negative people need love, too. Probably more than positive ones do!
You’re here to be happier. When you’re polite to others, your happiness will be returned, increasing yours. So, thank you for being polite, and please keep up the good work!
I’d love to hear which words pave your way to happiness – please contact me here or on my Facebook page and share your wisdom. And if you’d like a happiness quick tip to show up in your “in” box to start each week off right, sign up and it’s yours. Just scroll to the bottom of any page on my website – sandy j weaver dot com – the sign-up form is in the footer. Have a happier day!
You have a super-power, and you can use it to create happiness. But like a lot of powers, it’s simple, but not easy. Let the past be the past – focus on the future.
Let it goooo…let it gooooo…and it’s not just as simple as singing a Disney song.
Here’s a news flash – everyone has had bad things happen to them. You’re not alone, and your “bad things” may not be nearly as bad as what some people have had to deal with!
The past is finished. It’s done. It happened and can’t be changed. It only has power in your present and your future if you give it power.
Let’s see those words again – the past only has power in your present and future if YOU give it power.
How to you take the power away? Let.It.Go. You don’t have to keep re-hashing old wounds. Let them go. You don’t have to keep painful memories alive by thinking about them. Let them go. You don’t have to relive the same patterns of action/reaction with people who aren’t good for your soul. Let them go.
I don’t want to break your brain with this idea, but the only power you have is in the present. Think about it – you can’t change the past – it happened. You can’t create the future, because you’re not in total and complete control of every single variable. You can choose your attitude, choose your reactions and choose your focus. The steps you take are all taken in the present moment – the present is where all of your power is.
Focus on the present and on the future. What do you want your life to look like? Dream it, imagine it, and then create it. One of the best ways to kick the past to the curb is to stop focusing on it. Instead, focus on creating your future right now, in the present – just the way you want it!
I’d love to hear how your superpower works in your life – please contact me here or on my Facebook page and share your wisdom. And if you’d like a happiness quick tip to show up in your “in” box to start each week off right, sign up and it’s yours. Just scroll to the bottom of any page on my website – the sign-up form is in the footer. Have a happier day!