Want to know what one of the easiest ways to be happier is? Nurture your close relationships.
That’s right – don’t just have close friends. Nurture those friendships. According to evolutionary psychologist Dr. Robin Dunbar, every human should have between three and five close friends. Many of us fall short, some woefully so. The most common answer to the General Social Survey question “how many close confidants do you have” is zero. ZERO!! Especially among adult men, the art of finding and keeping close friends is a lost one.
Why do you need close friends? If you won’t do it for your own level of happiness, would you do it for your health? Friends are better for you than quitting smoking and are healthier than exercise, according to research published in the PLOS One journal.
How do you find out which of your friends are the ones that will make you the happiest and healthiest? Make a list. Who are the people in your life that you could call at three in the morning, pour your heart out to, and they would say just what you need to hear?
Those are your people. Your tribe. Your lifeline. Your friends.
Even if they’re relatives, their non-judgmental support means they’re friends, too.
Nurture your close relationships, no matter who they are, how you know them, where they live in relation to you – no matter what.
In our hearts, we know how we feel about those closest to us. In our knowing, we often forget to express that out loud, and our friends don’t know quite how much they mean to us.
Nurture your close relationships. Share aloud what you know in your head and your heart. And watch those relationships get even closer.
I’d love to hear how you nurture your close relationships – please contact me here by leaving a comment, or on my Facebook page – Sandy Weaver Keynotes – and share your wisdom. And if you’d like a happiness quick tip to show up in your “in” box to start each week off right, sign up and it’s yours. Just scroll to the bottom of any page on my website – sandy j weaver dot com – the sign-up form is in the footer. Have a happier day!