There are two important and often overlooked keys to happiness. Tim McGraw highlights them during the chorus of his song, “Humble and Kind” when he sings, “hold the door, say please, say thank you.” “Please” and “thank you” work – they make you happier! You heard that right – those courtesy words intended for others actually make you happier.
Can you believe a friend told me I use “please” and “thank you” too much? I was shocked! I had just finished presiding over a meeting of an educational non-profit where people were engaged, volunteering to help, and in good spirits. I thought the meeting had gone well, but her feedback for me was that I should tell people what to do, not ask them. And that whole “thank you” business needed to go, in her opinion – compliance should be expected, not appreciated. Ouch – not my style at all, and I hope it never is.
“Please” and “thank you” are very powerful words, but here’s the secret – they actually gain power the more you use them!
When you’re polite to others, they (usually!) are polite in return. That generates good feelings on both sides – you’ve made others happy, and their happiness increases yours.
In the case of people who equate politeness with weakness, as my friend does, you probably won’t get any politeness back from them. That’s ok – as humans, we were born with a full set of emotions to play with and experience, and some people play more with the negative ones. Just as you’re free to feel the way you want to feel, so are they. But remember – negative people need love, too. Probably more than positive ones do!
You’re here to be happier. When you’re polite to others, your happiness will be returned, increasing yours. So, thank you for being polite, and please keep up the good work!
I’d love to hear which words pave your way to happiness – please contact me here or on my Facebook page and share your wisdom. And if you’d like a happiness quick tip to show up in your “in” box to start each week off right, sign up and it’s yours. Just scroll to the bottom of any page on my website – sandy j weaver dot com – the sign-up form is in the footer. Have a happier day!