You aren’t the center of the universe & it’s ok.
As a newborn baby, you thought you were the center of the universe, and you were right. Really – babies have no point of reference except how they feel rightthisminute. As you grew older, you started to differentiate, and understood that other people have feelings, too. Did you hear the phrase “put yourself in the other person’s place” too? Or “walk a mile in my shoes”? Those are intended to teach empathy towards others, but might also have created a feeling of “you’re not as important as you think you are, buster!” at the same time.
Even when we’re taught to take others’ feelings into consideration, we still only have our own point of view on the world. It’s very easy to feel like the things happening around us are actually all about us. One of the thought processes that takes work to get rid of is the feeling that, no matter what happens, it’s somehow personal.
- The guy behind you honked when the light turned green.
- Your co-worker wasn’t very cheerful when you wished them a good morning.
- It’s your wedding day and it’s pouring down rain.
When you’re standing in the “center of the universe” place, all of these could feel personal, which means they wouldn’t feel very good. But in reality, more than likely not a single one of those three events is personal at all!
The honking guy is impatient…he’d honk at anyone if they were in front of him. The co-worker is having a rough morning. The rain is the rain – it’s out of your control, no matter what else is going on in your life.
When you take random things personally and let them upset you, you’re choosing the unhappier path. You’re allowing circumstances to dictate your attitude. When you shift your thoughts away from a knee-jerk reaction and look at events objectively, you’ll see that there’s no reason to take offense or have your feelings hurt.
Take control – you aren’t the center of the universe, not everything is about you, and it’s ok.
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